BERSUKARIA-RIA DI SUNWAY LAGOON

Saper tak pernah pergi Sunway Lagoon angkat tangan????

Pada hari Sabtu yg lepas,iaitu 23rd july 2011.aku n geng opis yg lain telah pegi ke Sunway Lagoon untuk mandi manda..PEMBETULAN YA..aku x mandi pun.Puas dorang dok pukuk aku termasuklah boss aku..tp aku tetap ngan pendirian au x mo mandi..akhirnya aku berjaya gak kah..kah..kah..sebenornyer ni bkn first time aku sampi sini..dh 3 kali..tu yang aku malas nak mandi bagai,nak menyalin baju lagi dah sekian hal nak menunggu

First - ngan kakak aku n family dia

2nd - gi tengok Pussycat Dolls

3rd - yang kali ni la..

Bayaran sebanyak RM 65. tetapi dpt diskaun 20%.tolak campur bahagi jadi la RM 48 + RM 10 deposit tuk waist watch.Barang2 kt dlm ni x yah ckap la mahal mcm maner..a

Pengunjung kt SL pada hari tu kebanyakkannyer adalah pak arab n korean jer..Malaysian termasuklah aku dlm  20% jer..rase cam kat negara dorang lair mineral pn smpi RM 3 hinggit.Aku main 1 benda jer kt dry park ni..coz lepas tu kepala aku buhal..SHIP..SUMPAH..x mau main dah menatang nie lepas nie..

Gayat bangat ,cam dunia nk terbalik jer..lepas tu dorang sumua gi main canyon river lak..time ni kepala aku dh penin tahan gaban..so aku pn blik..dlm kul 2 gak la aku grak dari sini..

nak blik pun 1 hal lagi..1j30min bru aku sampi rumah..punyala jauh bas tu bawak aku pergi merewang..dr SL ker old klang road,mid vallley,brickfield...last skali baru kl sentral..

Dari kl sentral naik lak taxi,kena lak RM 16,,kpala pening penin punyer pasal..tutup mater jer la..huhuhu

WISH LIST 2012 - 2. CANON DSLR

Memula aku berkenan yang ini.....

Ini adalah wish list no 1 untuk 2012..sepatutnya 2011 saya dah dapat membelinya,,tetapi disebabakan terdapat masalah duit yang terpaksa digunakan untuk barangan lain jadi saya plan untuk beli camera ni taun depan yakni 2012.Nak harapkan org kasi present??? jgn harapla ader org nk kasi..kena cari kwn2 yang kaya kut bru leh dapat ni..

Harga - RM 1700 - RM 1900

Target - End Dec or end Jan 2012..AMIN

Color - 4 color tp x tau lagi color aper nk bli..lebih kepada black then baru red..

TAPI........



Selera model Canonku dan berubah..dari 1100D ,aku dah berkenan dengan 600D la pulak
Kerja survey harga telah pun dijalankan.So far yg paling berbaloi yang telah dijumpai ialah di kedai Foto Edar yang terletak di Bukit Bintang.
Harga yang ditawarkan untuk 1100D adalah RM1650 berserta aksesori,4g memori kad dan tripod.
Bagi 600D lak RM2499 berserta aksesori,8g memori kad dan tripod

Banyak lagi event yang akan berlangsung sepanjang tahun 2012 ni.Yang dah terlepas

1. Trip to Cherating
2. Trip to Bandung
3. Trip to Kelantan
4. Annual Dinner Company

Coming soon event
1. Kenduri Kesyukuran sambut puasa
2. Hari Raya
3. Hari Raya Haji
4. Trip to Langkawi
5. Team Building
6. Trip to Bali
5. Trip to Jaakrta

Celebrating 30th birthday...

Tadaaaa..this is the answer..

Yeahhhh..malam tadi ader makan malam di Chili's Mid Valley.. I go there with one of my BFF. Surprisingly, he sing Happy Birthday Song to me..yeayyyy wink wink wink
Will post the picture later..

Last year i had lunch at Nando's with co workers and dinner at Victoria Station Taipan.This year low profile even on birthday eve I eat instant noodle for dinner at home and ALONE.



Hopping I will alive for next 100 years.

Top 10 Korean drama favourite aku...

10. Brilliant Legacy

9. Play full kiss



8. Personal Taste


7. Coffee Prince



6. You Are Beautiful


5. My Girlfriends is Gumiho



4. Protect The Boss



3. 49 Days



2. Secret Garden


1. Boys Over Flowers

10 Common Leadership and Management Mistakes

Experience is the name every one gives to their mistakes. - Oscar Wilde It's often said that mistakes provide great learning opportunities. However, it's much better not to make mistakes in the first place! In this article, we're looking at 10 of the most common leadership and management errors, and highlighting what you can do to avoid them. If you can learn about these here, rather than through experience, you'll save yourself a lot of trouble!

1. Lack of Feedback

Sarah is a talented sales representative, but she has a habit of answering the phone in an unprofessional manner. Her boss is aware of this, but he's waiting for her performance review to tell her where she's going wrong. Unfortunately, until she's been alerted to the problem, she'll continue putting off potential customers.

According to 1,400 executives polled by The Ken Blanchard Companies, failing to provide feedback is the most common mistake that leaders make. When you don't provide prompt feedback to your people, you're depriving them of the opportunity to improve their performance.

To avoid this mistake, learn how to provide regular feedback (member-only article) to your team. (You can use our Bite-Sized Training session on Giving Feedback (members only) to gain an in-depth understanding of feedback, and to learn how to provide it effectively.)

2. Not Making Time for Your Team

When you're a manager or leader, it's easy to get so wrapped up in your own workload that you don't make yourself available to your team.

Yes, you have projects that you need to deliver. But your people must come first - without you being available when they need you, your people won't know what to do, and they won't have the support and guidance that they need to meet their objectives.

Avoid this mistake by blocking out time in your schedule specifically for your people, and by learning how to listen actively to your team. Develop your emotional intelligence so that you can be more aware of your team and their needs, and have a regular time when "your door is always open," so that your people know when they can get your help. You can also use Management By Walking Around, which is an effective way to stay in touch with your team.

3. Being Too "Hands-Off" 

One of your team has just completed an important project. The problem is that he misunderstood the project's specification, and you didn't stay in touch with him as he was working on it. Now, he's completed the project in the wrong way, and you're faced with explaining this to an angry client.

Many leaders want to avoid micromanagement. But going to the opposite extreme (with a hand-offs management style) isn't a good idea either - you need to get the balance right.

Our article, Laissez Faire versus Micromanagement (member-only article) will help you find the right balance for your own situation.

4. Being Too Friendly

Most of us want to be seen as friendly and approachable to people in our team. After all, people are happier working for a manager that they get on with. However, you'll sometimes have to make tough decisions regarding people in your team, and some people will be tempted to take advantage of your relationship if you're too friendly with them.

This doesn't mean that you can't socialize with your people. But, you do need to get the balance right between being a friend and being the boss.

Learn how to do avoid this mistake with our article, Now You're the Boss. Also, make sure that you set clear boundaries (both member-only articles), so that team members aren't tempted to take advantage of you.

5. Failing to Define Goals 

When your people don't have clear goals, they muddle through their day. They can't be productive if they have no idea what they're working for, or what their work means. They also can't prioritize their workload effectively, meaning that projects and tasks get completed in the wrong order.

Avoid this mistake by learning how to set SMART goals for your team. Use a Team Charter to specify where your team is going, and detail the resources it can draw upon. Also, use principles from Management by Objectives to align your team's goals to the mission of the organization.

6. Misunderstanding Motivation

Do you know what truly motivates your team? Here's a hint: chances are, it's not just money!

Many leaders make the mistake of assuming that their team is only working for monetary reward. However, it's unlikely that this will be the only thing that motivates them.

For example, people seeking a greater work/life balance might be motivated by telecommuting days or flexible working. Others will be motivated by factors such as achievement, extra responsibility, praise, or a sense of camaraderie.

To find out what truly drives your people, read our articles on McClelland's Human Motivation Theory and Theory X and Theory Y. Then take our test How Good Are Your Motivation Skills? to learn how to be a great motivator of people.

7. Hurrying Recruitment

When your team has a large workload, it's important to have a full team. But filling a vacant role too quickly can be a disastrous mistake.

Hurrying recruitment can lead to recruiting the wrong people for your team: people who are uncooperative, ineffective or unproductive. With the wrong person, you'll have wasted valuable time and resources when they eventually leave. What's worse, other team members will be stressed and frustrated by having to "carry" the under-performer.

You can avoid this mistake by learning how to recruit effectively (member-only article), and by being particularly picky about the people you bring into your team.

8. Not "Walking the Walk"

If you make personal telephone calls during work time, or speak negatively about your CEO, can you expect people on your team not to do this too? Probably not!

As a leader, you need to be a role model for your team. This means that if they need to stay late, you should also stay late to help them. Or, if your organization has a rule that no one eats at their desk, then set the example and head to the break room every day for lunch. So remember, your team is watching you all the time. If you want to shape their behavior, start with your own. They'll follow suit.

9. Not Delegating

Some managers don't delegate, because they feel that no-one apart from themselves can do key jobs properly. This can cause huge problems as work bottlenecks around them, and as they become stressed and burned out.

Delegation does take a lot of effort up-front, and it can be hard to trust your team to do the work correctly. But unless you delegate tasks, you're never going to have time to focus on the "broader-view" that most leaders and managers are responsible for. What's more, you'll fail to develop your people so that they can take the pressure off you.

To find out if this is a problem for you, take our interactive quiz, How Well Do You Delegate? If you need to improve your skills, you can then learn key strategies with our articles, Successful Delegation, and The Delegation Dilemma (member-only article).

10. Misunderstanding Your Role

Once you become a leader or manager, your responsibilities are very different from those you had before.

However, it's easy to forget that your job has changed, and that you now have to use a different set of skills to be effective. This leads to you not doing what you've been hired to do - to lead and to manage.

Our articles Now You're The Boss (member-only article) and From Technical Expert to Managerprovide more information on the additional skills that you need to develop to be an effective manager. Make sure that you learn these skills - you'll fail if you try to rely on technical skills alone, however good they are!

Key Points:

We all make mistakes, and there are some mistakes that leaders and managers make in particular. These include, not giving good feedback, being too "hands-off," not delegating effectively, and misunderstanding your role.

It's true that making a mistake can be a learning opportunity. But, taking the time to learn how to recognize and avoid common mistakes can help you become productive and successful, and earn the respect of your team.

Surprise One: You Can't Run Everything, in Detail

Surprise One: You Can't Run Everything, in Detail

As a new manager, you first need to realize that you can't be directly involved in every detail of every project that your team is working on. Otherwise, work will bottleneck around you, you'll become exceptionally stressed, and your team's effectiveness will plummet. 

So your perspective has to shift from getting things done yourself to getting things done through other people. (This sounds obvious - but many new managers struggle with this!)

To avoid the problems associated with this surprise:

• Learn how to delegate effectively.
• Only attend meetings that you really need to attend.
• Question whether you need to participate in tasks, or simply be informed of their outcomes. 
• Be careful not to make too many decisions for people; when people come to you with a question, ask them what they recommend. 
• Give people the guidance and resources that they need to do their jobs themselves. This frees you to do the job of managing and leading your team.

Surprise Two: Giving Orders is Costly

As a manager, you need to work towards a situation where you don't need to tell people what to do, and can, instead, trust them to make the right decisions. 

Some people may doubt their ability to make decisions. When this happens, they're likely to come to you for approval of everything. This creates "manager dependency," and can make you a decision-making bottleneck, potentially stalling your team's progress.

In a similar way, overruling decisions or making last minute changes can waste a great deal of time and resource; and it can also undermine your people's confidence.

To avoid the problems associated with this surprise:

• Communicate your organization's vision and values, keep people informed, and train them so that they have the confidence to make decisions, based on what's best for the organization.
• Create systems and structures so that your people understand what needs to be done.
• Endorse robust decision making tools, and teach people how to use them. 
• Let people know that mistakes are part of the development process, and that you'd rather they take some risks than be indecisive. (Clearly, this may not be suitable in all types of work, so use your best judgment.)
• Recognize how placing trust in people can improve your team's performance.

Surprise Three: It's Hard to Know What's Really Going On

No one wants to give his or her boss bad news. So, the reality is that by the time you get information, it won't necessarily be reliable. 

However, you need accurate information to manage effectively, so you'll have to gather information from as many sources as possible. 

To avoid the problems associated with this surprise:

• Use Management By Wandering Around. This keeps you in contact with your people, and allows you to see and hear what's going on first-hand.
• Talk to customers and suppliers on a regular basis, and build strong relationships with these people.
• Analyze all of your stakeholders, and communicate with them often to ensure that you know what they're thinking.

Surprise Four: You're Always Sending a Message

As a manager, your words and your actions hold a lot of weight. People may speculate about why you said or did something; and they'll try to interpret whether your words or actions contained any hidden messages. Your mood will also affect your team, and everything that you say will be analyzed. 

Managers lead by example, whether they want to or not. You need to be careful about the example that you're setting, and be fully aware of the messages you're sending - deliberate or not. 

To avoid the problems associated with this surprise:

• Use simple, clear language when you communicate with people. 
• Double check that people understand your message, and don't assume that people have grasped the real meaning of what you're communicating.
• Think about your body language, and learn how to use it to convey the right message. 
• Use storytelling to communicate the messages that you want people to hear.
• Be a good role model for your people, and lead by example.

Surprise Five: You Aren't Always the Boss

While you might be the boss of your team, you aren't the ultimate boss. (Even a business owner is accountable to his or her customers.) There will always be someone that you need to report to, so you can't allow yourself to get caught up in your own importance. 

As a manager, you should know who you need to keep informed, and you should work hard to gain the support of people around you. You will also need to manage upward, and be aware of how you stand with the people you report to. 

You also can't let the flow of information stop with you, just because you're the manager.

To avoid the problems associated with this surprise:

• Learn how to develop effective relationships with powerful people in your organization.
• Find ways to collaborate with people that you report to, and to gain their trust. 
• Remember to share information and resources on a regular basis - both with your team, and with others.

Surprise Six: Pleasing Shareholders is not Always the Goal

Shareholders typically have a short-term perspective, and may be profit or performance oriented. 

However, there are other longer-term considerations that can be more important than the goals of shareholders, and you need to be aware of these. 

For instance, should company profits outweigh safety concerns? Should you push your team to finish a project unfeasibly early, because your boss is putting pressure on you? If an executive is behaving inappropriately with one of your people, when should you decide that enough is enough? 

Making this type of decision requires knowing who you are ultimately accountable to. 

To avoid the problems associated with this surprise:

• Take some time to understand your personal values, and how they fit with company values. 
• Understand the vision of the company and what it stands for. Make decisions based on that vision and those values. Reward team behavior that promotes these values. 
• Develop a clear strategy for your team, and ensure that it's aligned with corporate strategy.
• Attract and recruit people in your team who fit the vision and values of your organization. 
• Understand Value-Based Management - the idea that you should be chasing the best long-term value of your business, not sacrificing the future just to boost this quarter's earnings.

Surprise Seven: You're Still Only Human

As a manager you must remember that your position doesn't make you better or more capable than anyone else. You'll continue to make mistakes, and people around you will still have opinions that are different from yours. 

However, being a manager does make you more responsible, and you need to demonstrate this responsibility.

To avoid the problems associated with this surprise:

• Be humble and thankful, and reward the people around you who make you and your team look good.
• Be accountable to yourself. 
• Use your emotional intelligence to remain connected with colleagues, family, and friends. 
• Create your Wheel of Life, and remind yourself to find the balance you need to be the best you can be.

Key Points

The seven surprises for new CEOs were first identified by Michael Porter, Jay Lorsch, and Nitin Nohria. This article looks at how these apply to managers more generally, highlighting seven misconceptions that people have when they start out in a management or leadership role.

The seven surprises are:

1. You can't run everything, in detail.
2. Giving orders is costly.
3. It's hard to know what's really going on.
4. You're always sending a message.
5. You aren't the boss.
6. Pleasing shareholders is not always the goal.
7. You're still only human.

The transition to manager can be a challenge. But by being aware of these common misconceptions and the issues associated with them, you'll increase your chances of being successful.

Why People Don't Change

Dealing with difficult people can be extremely frustrating. Trying to change them can be even worse. Understanding why people find it so difficult to change can provide some insight and relief. Although changing another person is out of your control there are some things you can do that can help. This may be absolutely necessary if the difficult person in your life is your spouse, your child, your boss, or anyone else who you have close contact with every day.

Understanding why people find it so difficult to change is the first step. Here are three things you should know.

1) What we see in other people is very obvious because we can observe it objectively. This perspective is huge. Understanding that what we see is not as obvious to them is vital. Communicating our perception in a fair manner is the first step.

2) We have all been "programmed". A lot of our emotional habits are formed in early childhood. It took us a long time to perfect these habits, so to just "change them" permanently is not always easy. If you have ever tried to quit a bad physical habit like smoking, eating sweets or biting your nails, you'll know that at first it is really hard to just stop. Emotional habits are even more difficult because they are not as obvious. Self-awareness is the key.

3) Sometimes people are aware of their annoying habit or behavior but still don't change. This happens when the "payoff" for staying the same is higher than benefit of changing. Think about the person who is notoriously late. What kind of payoff can someone get from being late all the time? Here are a few payoffs that may be keeping them stuck. "I can get a lot more things done during the time I could be early or on time". "I feel in control". "Being late is fashionable, I wouldn't want to appear over anxious or too eager". "If I'm early I may have to wait for someone else". Although these payoffs are double standards they are often overwhelming. The obvious positive payoffs that we may perceive, like "appearing more professional", "improved relationships" and "reduced stress levels" may not even cross their mind.

So what can you do? Here are some tips to making lasting changes:

1. Change yourself first but state your needs clearly and respectfully. You can only change yourself. This may include letting others know that your needs are not being met and telling them what you require from them. You can say something like, "I have to let you know that when you are late I feel disrespected. My time is important too. In the future, I require that you be on-time or let me know in advance that you'll be late. Is that something you can do?"

2. Get some perspective. Self-awareness is the key to change. You can't change what you can't see. If you require a new perspective on yourself take a look at your life and see what's not working for you. Then, with the help of some objective and truthful friends, ask them what they think you're doing to create this situation. If someone else seems to be unaware of a behaviour that is affecting others, ask a specific question like, "Are you aware that when you ________ it is hurtful?"

3. Uncover your history to discover your current mystery. Patterns and habits can be deep. Look at your early childhood experiences. Are you a people pleaser? Why? How did this start? Are you shy and withdrawn? How did this start? Finding the root of your emotional habits will equip you to make different choices. Conscious choice is incredibly empowering.

4. Figure out the "payoff". Leverage is needed to change a habit. There has to be a bigger reason to change than to stay the same. Looking deeper is often the key. Honestly list all the reasons why you may be unconsciously resisting change. Then list the benefits of changing. Seeing both sides of the picture is the only way to "get it". If you are dealing with another person ask them why they think they don't change. This will help them process why they may be stuck.

5. Do the "21-day habit change". By changing an emotional habit for 21 days you will be well on your way to permanent change. Just 21 days. Track it, journal it or create a spreadsheet. If you can get through that the rest will be a breeze.

When You Fall Down, Get Back Up

Have you ever seen a small child learn how to walk? If you have, you know what a remarkable experience it is. I'd heard about this, but had never witnessed it first hand until Samantha, our (almost) five year old, took her first real steps when she was just over a year. She and I were playing in our family room one night and although she'd taken a step or two here and there, and could get around okay while holding onto an adult or a piece of furniture, she hadn't really "walked" yet. That night I was holding her hands and pulling her across the room with me, as she took some steps. I decided to let go to see what would happen. I did and she took a step or two and then fell down, face first, on the soft carpet. She was fine. She looked up at me and although she couldn't speak, she made it very clear that she wanted me to pick her up so she could try again. I did and this time when I let go she took about four or five real steps and then fell down. I screamed, "You did it!", started clapping wildly, and yelling for my wife Michelle to come into the room. Michelle came running in. Samantha and I went to the far end of our family room. I held her hands to steady her, started walking with her across the floor, let go, and then it happened - she really walked - all the way across the room, by herself. When she fell down, Michelle and I were so elated and moved, we both burst into tears and joyous laughter at the same time. Samantha, so proud of herself, began to shriek with excitement and to clap her hands as she was lying there on the floor. And, of course, she wanted to get back up and go again. We all know how to do this - fall down and get back up. Assuming we know how to walk, which most of us are fortunate enough to be able to do, we went through this specific and miraculous experience ourselves when we were very small. We've also gone through it in a figurative sense many other times as we move through the ups and downs of life. The question isn't whether or not we'll fall down; the question is will we be bold enough to get back up again? Too often, sadly, we fall down and then decide we can't get back up. Boldness is about having the courage, willingness, and commitment to get back up when we fall down - even if we're scared or don't think we can. Resisting, complaining about, or even feeling sorry for ourselves about the "bad" things that happen is totally normal and what we're often encouraged to do by people around us and our culture in general - whether we do it out loud with others or just in our heads. However, these things, while understandable, don't address the real issues, the emotions we're experiencing, or make things better for us. Facing difficulties in our life can actually be an incredibly rewarding and positive experience for us - if we choose to allow our challenges to be opportunities for growth. Below is a list of some things to appreciate when we "fall down" in life. Obstacles, failures, and challenges can: Give us important feedback about where and who we are Provide an opportunity for us to be courageous Allow us to wake up and notice all the good things that are happening that we hadn't been paying attention to Give us a great opportunity for learning, growth, and improvement Allow us to learn to appreciate ourselves, even when things don't turn out exactly as we want them to Give us an opportunity to get in touch with, take responsibility for, and express our real emotions in an authentic way Challenge us to play bigger, make adjustments, or re-think our approach By learning to see our challenges as opportunities, we take our power back from the situations, circumstances, and outcomes of our lives. Our ability to appreciate difficulties, learn from them, and use them to our advantage, gives us an important insight into who we really are and how to create success and fulfillment in a conscious, deliberate, and authentic way. Being bold, going for what we want, and living with authenticity doesn't in any way mean we won't fail, struggle, or fall short. In fact, if we aren't failing or facing any challenges at all, it's probably a good indication that we aren't playing all that big in our lives. It's important for us to make peace with the fact that we will fall down many times throughout our journey. However, when we make a commitment to ourselves to get back up, dust ourselves off, be real about how we feel and what happened, and not let it stop us from being who we are and going for what we want -we tap into what true power, boldness, and authenticity are all about.

WISH LIST 2012 - 1. AZAM 2011 YANG TERTUNGGAK!!!

Selepas hampir 11 tahun saya tidak membuat apa2 perubahan dalam hidup....
Apa azam tahun baru korang? 2011 dah ditunaikan? Saya banyak lagi belum diselesaikan diantaranya kat bawah ni

* Buy Canon DSLR Camera
* Going to Bandung hua.. hua..
* Saving duit
* Korea
* KURUS ..nak maintain paling x pn saiz  M  L

Yang tercapai hanya 1 iaitu buy LAPTOP..that it!!!..RM6k yg lain  hangus mcm tu sahaja tanpa nampak apa2.Sangat sedih dengan kehidupan aku.Tapi aku tetap bersyukur.Tahun 2012 adalah taun untuk aku MOVING ON!!!
Ni semua belum dapat direalisasikan.Walaupun 2012 dah nak menjelma aku akan carry forwardkan Wish lish 2011 gak.Dan kat bawah ni aku sertakan lak wish list untuk 2012

* BERUBAH - Mencuba sesuatu yang baru dr segi makan,fashion,style
* DON'T GIVE UP - Try harder
* Speaks OUT - don saya Yes,I understands..
* What else - Learn Englist instead of korean
* Buy 42" LCD TV - DONE
* Buy DSLR
* Travel alone - Yeeehaaa.NI YANG PALING AKU SUKA SEKALI..

Jangan buat bebanyak..kang tak terbuat..sedit x per janji dapat direalisasikan..

SAENG IL CHUK HA HAM NI DA

Saeng il chuk ha ham ni da

Saeng il chuk ha ham ni da

Sarang ha neun Liza Shi  

Saeng il chuk ha nam ni da

Know this song???? this is birthday  song in korean...nobody will sing for me for sure.. :{


What is my birthday present for this year??? i think only MY SELF...can't buy Jewell, DSLR camera even buy a good food.. i can afford all that..very pity me..
Last year my friends buy a lunch at Nando's and at night ex hubby bring me to Victoria Station at Taipan..we had a nice dinner that night..


I'm still thinking about  a good "speech" to all my friends and family..to thanks all the support,

.

This year i think i will celebrate my birthday ALONE,, no ones willing to acompany me..sad sad sad..

This year.. what i can say is the MOST terrible year i had ...
  

* Lovely dad and mom  had sick ..going to hospital,transfer hospital,appendix,operate,ICU ,stroke etc

* My demolish weeding during my father in hospital....we fighting,we DIVORCE, moral down,we separating,but i need to moving on..what else..until now i'm not telling anyone except 1 my closes friends..

* Bank keep calling asking regarding loan i have made in past..find mi in office..

One thing make me happy this year is my relationship with my family are closer day by day..every weekend we meet up and talk lots about past stories ....we share,we eat,we talk,

DUGAAN OHHH DUGAAN

Ranking dugaaaanky

1. Terpaksa cancel flight ke BANDUNG..hua..hua..hua..dah plan lamer sangat nk gi saner tp apakan daya..duit xder..dok sorang2 kt KL lak tu..

Solution

Bemula tuhun depan save duit for Airasia n travel..kan tahun depan plan ni gi jenjalan korea sorang2...i'm a brave gurl...

2. dah ader duit extra RM400..BI lak call kater kene bayor gak ..kalu tak warrant kuar..WHAT THE HELLLLL..dugaan kan????..dah la duit ciput..

3. X leh spent duit gaji for personal thing..semua kena bayor hutang jer..bawah ni senarai brg personal yg nk kena bli bln ni ..tapi...

• foundation
• bedak muka
• blusher
• shampoo
• shower gel - tunggu masa jer
• barang dapur
• baju kerja yg tinggal 5 helai jer

maner nak cari duit for itu semua!!!!!!! itu pn internet n astro x bayar lagi..hua..hua

Solution

* Find house mate

* cut unnecessary payment..Astro

4. keta pn org bank call..kater nk tarik ..hua huha hua,..duit lagi..

Apa2 pn saya cuba terima hakikat ini dan moving on,..kekadang rasa give up ngan life ni..anyway saya tetap bersyukur kerana masih bernafas sehingga hari ini..AMIN

Monthy Expenses yang tak kesudahan..

Satu tajuk yang malas nk citer tetapi tepaksa dihadapi setiap bulan..Setiap bulan akan terdapat beberapa bill yang terpaksa aka wajib dibayar setiap bulan..dan angka nya makin meningkat setiap hari..oh tidak!!! bila nk abis bayor hutang ni???

hutang yang tertunggak lagi..

• Mr A - RM 1100 - dah malu nk pinjam dah..nak kene insuran clear dula ler nampaknyer..
• bank Islam    - beribu - ribu lemon...
• kakak ku - ader la dln 1000 lagi kut..kesian kat dia..
• kutu - hujung taun ni habis..sambung lagi ya..taun ni dah upgrade ker 250..ni Korea punya pasal la ni..ikat perut la
• honda - dh bertunggak 2 bln.. road tax nk mati dah ni...
• dan lain-lain..

ni plak senarai orang yang pandai berhutang tp x pandai bayorrrr

• Mr A Jimbraun- pinjan duit nk bt muka beli honda W  6022..RM 2K..sampai skarang x bayor..habok pn xder...sesenang jer org lain tumpang senang..senang kan idup org macam ni..

• Mr B Jimbraun -ni lagi byk..time pinjam ayat manis..time nk boyor..ayat pepalih manis..

* Hutang time x keje (mkn tanggung berak cangkung ) RM 1500

* Hutang nafkah RM 1200

* Hutang kawin RM 2000 (kira minus tolak duit mak dia dia

Dah memacam2 alasan dia kasi time nk bayor..1 sen pn x nmpak lagi..

tp Alhamdullilah gak...sib baik ader duit claim keta eksiden dulu...
boley gak nk bayor


* Hutang Mr A RM 1100
* Bila baju kijer ..dah xder baju kijer dah..ader 4 helai jer..kena kurus badan ni..


*hutang mak aku ..hehehehe..malunyerr

Kesimpulanyer..jgn berhug or  bagi org berhutang..klu nk kasi..kasi kat org yang confirm akan bayor jer..

Letting Go & Moving On - Self Improvement

Dealing with Separation - Breaking Up, Letting Go and How To Move On
Why do we get so attached to another human being? The depression that follows the break-up of a relationship is considered by mental health professionals as a normal part of grieving. However, to those going through it, the pain can seem unbearable, and the accompanying behavior, embarrassing.

But when a relationship  - is no longer flowing -- either because one partner wants out or for any other reason -- it is time to release. The magic of releasing gracefully may actually bring the partner back. However, it doesn't work to fake it. One must truly release without expectations for the future. And it is much easier to release than to go through the agony of holding on after it's over.

Below are some guidelines for releasing when it's necessary. They make it easier to let go and even expedite the process so you can be free to move on.

1. Allow yourself to cry and grieve without judgment. Embrace the tears. Even welcome them, because they are healing. Don't fight your feelings of depression and sadness. Let them be, knowing that they will pass. Meanwhile, realize that the pain won't kill you. By letting your grieving flow freely, you will recover quicker.

2. Surrender to the Divine moment-by-moment and day-by-day, especially during the hard times. Stop trying to make something happen with your ex. Trust that if you're meant to be together, eventually it will be. But for now, you must release. There's a magic in this. Each time you manage to surrender, putting your pain in God's hands, you will be met by some unexpected good. I've seen this come in the form of a distraction, a visit from a caring friend or an inspirational email that lifts your spirits. This will build your trust. Understand that you are and will be taken care of, even in the midst of your sorrow. Watch for what shows up for you each day in the form of support and love.

3. One of the best methods of stopping obsessive thoughts about the other person is to focus instead on yourself and your own life. What we may look for in a lover is something we think is missing in our self, so it makes sense that attention to the self is what can actually fill this void. By turning your attention to yourself, you heal. Open to the Divine vision of yourself as a fulfilled, sacred being with an amazing life. Declare that it is time that you come into your own. Every time you slip into obsessing about your former   partner, take steps toward realizing your potential. The goal in letting go is to eventually be neutral about the other person.

This means that you don't waste time thinking about her, either with longing or with bitterness. Wish her well, but be too busy with your own life to waste much time on something that is now in the past.

4. When pain arises, embrace it but don't feed it. There is a hilarious bit in the film Broadcast News, in which each morning, the television producer played by Holly Hunter spends a few minutes in her closed office bawling her eyes out. Then, she puts away the Kleenex and gets on with her day. This is not a bad approach to the sadness of release.

Yes, you must embrace and allow the pain, but there are times when you must put it on the back burner and get on with life (like at your job). Furthermore, you don't want to become a drama queen (or king) in which you allow your life to become a tragedy of unrequited, doomed love. There is too much loving and living waiting for you. Notice ways in which you feed your pain.

Notice when you think of the person or your pain and how often. This alone will begin to dissolve the pattern. Say to yourself, "I'm thinking of him again." Watch yourself do this as if you suddenly realize you're sitting in a movie instead of being completely caught up in the movie. You will notice that the pain actually goes away as you dis-identify with it.

Start understanding that you are not your thoughts, and that you can instantly pull yourself out of mushrooming negative thoughts or pain. As you master this practice, you are living in the present and leaving your past in the past.

5. Forgive so you can be free. Whether you blame your ex-partner or another person for "breaking up" your relationship, hanging on to bitterness will not serve you. If you feel victimized, remember that you chose to stay in the relationship, ignoring the warning signs that were invariably there. Now, it's time to move on, and that's good. Be glad that you have finally seen the truth and can be open to something better. And don't bother taking anything personally. Refrain from thinking there is something wrong with you.

6. Take the high road as a way of practicing self-love. Don't name call. Don't scream. Don't act childishly. Don't be petty. If you're a parent, don't put your children in the middle with little digs or get into a custody battle unless your children are truly in jeopardy. You may think vengeful thoughts but don't act on them. You will respect yourself much more by being above this "small" behavior.

7. Do a formal release of your partner. It's not necessary to do it face-to-face or over the phone. Write a letter that you don't send or perform a ritual, releasing him to his highest good. Imagine the ties between the two of you -- between your hearts, between your sexual organs, between your minds, between your souls - being cut. Then, say good-bye out loud and in your heart. This may be extremely painful, but you will feel much lighter afterward.

8. Don't let your heart close. There is no such thing as a broken heart, only one that's opening wider. A heart in pain is simply feeling love and loss fully. This means that it behooves you to embrace your grieving while continuing to be open to love in whatever way it appears in your life. A heart that remains open heals faster.

Time does help. So does meeting someone new or cutting off all contact with your ex. But it is also true that seeing your former partner regularly (if, for example, you work together) forces you into doing deeper internal expansion. If you have ever been in love before and gotten over it, you know you can do   so again, even if this love has seemed like the greatest love you've ever known.

Rest assured that there will be much more love for you and that this ending is actually a new beginning in your life.

Penang 2011 - Day 2

Bangun pagi jer perut dh berkeroncong..oh ya blik yang di book tu xder breakfast yer..walaupn xder breakfast regenyer dan RM 265 per nite!!! mahal gila bab..
Tengok tv,mandi n bersiap...pergi cari mamam dulu..walking distance ke nasi kandar line clear

Masa sampai Q dia sampi keluar..dok lak beratur panjang tengah panas..bru klu 11.30am,tp kedai dh full seating..kebanyakan org yg dtg sini orang luar dari penang...macam aku ler....
sedap ker???
sorry la yer for me..ianya x lah best maner pun..klu orang lain sebok dok cerita kasi 5 bintang..aku kasi 1.5 bintang jer..glamer sbab ramai artis makan kt situ jer..reganyer pn mahal..


lepas abis makan gerak ke hotel semula..gi amik keter nar hotel td..sempat menuju ker Gurney Mall Plaza,sebelum kuar td,sempat lagi gi book ticket wayang dulu..bosankan x tau nk bt aper..dh dapat map dr receptionist hotel..tru menuju ker saner..



Sampi saner,wayang nyer 0.....cam terpercaya lak..klu KL mcm tu kan bagus..kitorang tgk citer super 8..ok la ceritanaye..

lepas abis tgk wayang,melepak jap kt dlm starbuck dan terus mkm kt saner n blik menuju ke perinngi..tempat org selalu bercinta kt saner..kitorang pergi nk amik angin jer sambil bercerita experiance masing2..sambil tgk view pantai..



masa smpi kt sini..kawasan nyer sangnat lengang..x rasa cam kt penanag or hari minggu pun..sesangat la lengang..dinner kt restoran tepi jln..ok la food taste dia..
lepas makan..terus bergerak ker balik ke hotel...penat oiii!!!


Sampai hotel trus terbungkang!!!relaks jap , nengok tv , mandi n repat to SS lagi..tp mlm ni special skit coz ader DJ FLYFM buat life kt dlm tu..ok la..sangat seronok lagu2nyer..

Penang 2011 - Day 1

Bulan June yang lepas aku sempat lagi escape dr KL menuju ker Penang..Bertolak jumaat petang dlm jam 4pm..tp disebabkan jam + sesat + salah masuk jalan berkali2.. kat kul 7pm bru leh kuar dr KL..tapi kul 10pm kitorang dah check in di Cititel hotel.


Check in,relaks jap,mandi n turun bawah..plan nk cari makan tp terjumpa benda lain la plak.
jeng jeng jeng
Slippery Senoritas..kelab hiburan pling hapenning kt penang ni..sebelum masuk tu..isi perut dulu kt stall mamak tepi jalan order mee goren mamak jer..itu pn share,,takut x leh nak abis...


Mamak kira!!! lepas tu baru la menapak kt SS..SS ni terletak ditengah2 bdr penang..penang uptown klu x silap..banyal hotel2 yang berdekatan dengan tempat  ni..contoh hotel yg walking distance ialah Bayview, the continental,cititel..yang lain tu x ingat sah..


Malamnya kami melepak kt SS sampi 2.30am then jaaln kaki blik ker hotel..


sampai hotel..TIDOWWW

Aku Takderper Nak Cerita

Bersamaan dengan tajuk diatas, aku sebenarnyer takder idea nak cerita aper pada hari ni. Ini adalah pembuka entry untuk belog ni.Naper aku bukak belog ni??

1. Sebab aku suka sangat baca belog orang lain..nanti aku wat entry khas belog yang aku suka baca..

2. Sebab aku nak rekodkan kejadian seharian yang aku lalui..disebabakan aku setiap hari travel ketempat-tempat yang berlainan

3. Sebab aku tak tau nak share cerita aku ngan saper..sob..sob..sob

4. Sebab..dan lain2

Aku harap dengan pembukaan belog ni,aku akan lebih kreatif untuk bercakap dengan orang lain dan aku lebih menghargai apa yang ada kat sekeliling aku.

Naper aku cakap lebih menghargai???bukan aku tak menghargai apa yang ada sekarang cume FEEL nya kurang terasa.bila pikir2 balik,banyak benda yang aku dah lalui sebelum ni tapi aku dah macam lupa-lupa gitew

Contohnyer time aku pes time gi bercuti kat obersee..aku dah hampir lupa apa aktiviti yang aku buat kat sana.Nasib baik la aku ader gambar lagi kat saner..tu pun gambar ngan 1 baju jer..kekdahnyer time tu tak reti lagi nak berfotografi ni..

PERHATIAN : Belog ini hanyer untuk tulisan semata-mata sahaja..